As for whether to stay or leave, that's not a decision anyone but you can make. While we were still dating I went to Las Vegas with a friend for her birthday. She tells him it will most likely bother him a hell of a lot more, and god knows the amount of other issues it will cause. You say if he truly loves her, he would make it work. Honestly, it seems like you already know you can't live with her anymore.
I also find it strange that expecting a base level of adult behavior from adults is some sort of unrealistic or exaggerated expectation. I was not as trustworthy as you were when I knew she was going, and believe something did happen while she was there. You can read about me , peruse the archives and read popular posts. Your old ass should know better than that. There will be a rough year or whatever and then fairly smooth sailing. But if you will not do so, behold, you have sinned against the Lord, and be sure your sin will find you out Numbers 32:23. And then with your mention of Bitter Gay Mark.
My spouse will leave me and our family will be destroyed. You've already come to the realization that no matter how perfectly she acts from now on, you cannot forgive her for this transgression. I think if she can forgive you, then you should forgive her. I will never understand keeping an infidelity secret. Some things effect people more strongly than others, so don't beat yourself up over being so crushed by the cheating, especially since you guys have been together for 12 years. Since that night we haven't so much as hugged. The whole time I was blowing up her phone, dozens of texts and calls, and I kept asking her friends where she was but I got no answer from them.
I'm better off going forward as if the affair never happened. Then you better delete your sleezy profile. I think you two need counselling. Now, she leaves you for three days, and by peer pressure, gets drunk. She didn't try to justify or rationalize what she had done because she knew there was nothing bad about our relationship she could go off of. I won't even be worried if they have feelings towards her.
Went out drinking with her friends happens rarely despite asking her several times to stay home with me that night and spend time with our 2 year old son. Alot of things are paved with good intentions. First type can forgive infidelity and the second type can't. Didn't call the kids or anything. Not because divorce is ok, but because God noticed the hardness of His people's hearts and thought it better that they be split than to have that kind of hardened Union. Then when I go home the misery starts again.
Some people can, some people can't. Otherwise, you're going to be left to wonder. It was just really hard to watch, but at the same time I was a bad place too and she was a good friend, even if she was a bad wife to him. Let's put aside the whole possibility she may be cheating on you. But no, she had to go the whole nine yards. My friend starting hanging out with this one girl that night, having a drink with her and so forth, but one of her friends told me, don't worry she is in love and is recently married, she has been married four months. Also, For Better Or For Worse.
Should I hire someone just so I will know for sure? I have a very low tolerance for cheating, but. You would think that she would love to share the experience with you too. Its too late to do anything now from his perspective. You need to tell her about the boundaries of your relationship. That would probably bring you more peace of mind in a relationship.
One argues that revenge is taken and the other one says that he had it coming. I also don't buy you'll only hurt them to unburden yourself. My ex wife didn't try as hard as yours though and she hid details from me. I dont knwo what tehy said, but the combination of that plus her greatly charged sexual behavior with me, either they actually made love or did some pretty serious petting. I hope you can forgive her, and work past it. You don't have to belittle yourself by accepting this. The fact is, you haven't — and your partner deserves to know that so he or she can decide whether to give you another chance.
Does she mean grinding against her girlfriends like college girls do to get attention from guys? She thought it should be her cross to bear, so she was never going to tell me. It's very hard to rebuild trust after an episode like this, but it sounds like you two really love each other and can be strong enough to go ahead. I tried to forgive her and move on but it was over. Then she was complaining her legs were sore, way up high in her thighs on the outside kinda in her butt. First of all, you're a father of a newborn and you're going to a strip club.