He now sneaks out to buy his pot and tells me he is going elsewhere. I need to finally be selfish and think about myself and my future. It's sad that people think weed is ok weed is amazing don't get me wrong i use to smoke that cr p i had no issue it helped me for two reason i had issue in life with 1. I've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years now. I love him because he is sweet and loving and funny and very charming.
Let him know your concern, but you've got to understand, people change, whether through drugs or just moving away. If he hasn't, he gets the money. You don't have to be okay with his drug use and no one should tell you you should. With depression a day social anxiety though I still stand by those are probably underlying issues that were masked. So why would he try to hide it from me? I am trying to find a compromise that I am truly okay with, but in all honesty I think smoking is disgusting and it saddens me to think of him doing it. We came to an agreement that he will be able to smoke once in a while, if he really feels like it.
We like you have discussed marriage and are now living together. You say you're the best thing for him, you're what he needs, he needs motivation, etc. Contact Crisis Services Canada at 833 456-4566. I had a feeling she was doing it for quite some time. Turns out he was baked. He's not addicted to it so if he ran out of weed, he can not smoke for weeks. It's an individual choice, an assertion of free will.
I love him more than anything in the world but I feel like at some point I have to put my foot down and get the respect I deserve. You can set boundaries; what you are or are not willing to be around- but you cant change him. If it were me, I would ask him to make a choice between me and the drug, because personally, I have no interest in being with anyone who uses drugs yes, weed is a grug even on an occasional basis. I don't like being around people getting high anymore than I enjoy being around people drinking. I used alcohol when I was younger…but I have grown up and have taken responsibility in life.
Be on the same page as him, not the opposite side. At least he would now think about how you rolled a joint for him. Others may be a lot more tolerant, and perhaps you are one. I had a beautiful little kid and another on the way. So even though I wouldn't want to be around the cigar smoke, I'd be okay with it if he brushed his teeth afterward. I don't understand it, because he knew i didn't care.
I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, I'm 26 he's 32. I find it better than putting all trouble and faith on weed, drugs, materials and etc. He doesn't know that I hold no ill will and love him very very much! You don't have to have that in your life if you don't want to and no amount of other 'happiness' will ever trump that feel you get when it comes to him smoking. He seems careless now, about the relationship and about seeing me, and, I feel, in other general aspects of life. We even missed the fireworks coz he wanted weed This was last night. There are plenty of fish out there you just have to believe in yourself, be strong and go get it. Please help I knew my girlfriend used to smoke pot at a young age.
I carried a lot of shame and wasted a lot of money. Help, what can I do to make him stop? Other than the pot he really is a wonderful guy, very hardworking and always makes me feel appreciated, supported, and special. I was wearing sexy lingerie in front of him and he denied sex because he was too stoned and high that his head was spinning too much. I blame myself for it bc I went to a soccer game rather than being there for her. Of course there's a few, however you are perfectly capable of holding a good job while being a stoner. Something to watch; I had more than a few girlfriends leave me because I wasn't making them and our relationship a priority, and was chasing a buzz. And yet he still continued to do it secretly.
Stress and depression occur when you keep thinking on a thing that weighs you down. I'm the best thing for him. U posted a few months ago, how is everything going?? But my current boyfriend loves it! Thank You all for sheering your stories. My dad had a major stroke, brain-bleed and he almost died but was left with only half of his body functioning. Lawyers and economists say the nudge method can incentivize change while still letting people decide for themselves. I just broke up with my boyfriend because I felt that he had become apathetic, unmotivated, never realizing any of his professed ambitions and leaving all the responsibilities to me. Edit: well aparrently some people do change, I have just never witnessed anything dramatic.
His mom does it too. Different incentives work for different people, maybe give him a knobber if he goes a week without smoking or only once or whatever. I can't trust him anymore, and i hate that. After all, we all have character flaws, right? I am not giving it up. Only him will benefit by feeling high not me. Now I know why she always took her purse into the bedroom and hid it.
I try to put limits on him and control him and it does not work. You can get a small craving for it but it is nothing like nicotine withdrawal or hard drug withdrawal. I am so sorry, Kim and Minty. How am I going to deal with this? But yeah it's gross lol i wouldn't date anyone who does drugs. Anytime there's someone who is using alcohol or drugs to excess or as a means to self-medicate, they have a problem.