Nice people can easily tempt us to take advantage of them or be contemptuous of them. When I hit 50, I escalated a journey I'd been on for a few years, where I challenged myself to be more honest in all areas of my life -- honest about my wants, and my hopes and also about my fears. The other side of being nice is the fact that some of us will take advantage of the nice person, and some of us will be mean to them. When we're overtired, overly stressed or really angry, it's much harder to contain our impulses, and something nasty can leak out: a hurtful comment, a selfish choice, a thoughtless act. As Richelle Meiss said on Gurl. His swaggy bad language buddyyyyy Cool, hot, etc Sweet, caring, considerate : Fun.
Having hobbies and interests will give you a basis on which to build relationships with others. Doing bad stuff xD Being with friiends Helping people, talking, friends etc : I love everyone Food :D 9 Music type? The second problem is that people may begin take advantage of your sweet ways, and that's when the doormat issue comes into play. I have no control over what happens next -- hurt feelings, disappointment, anger, or understanding, acceptance and love -- and that's perfectly alright because I only need to have control over myself. Let him use it but tell him you need it back on one minute 5 Your parents. And when that happens, you're not , according to an article on EliteDaily. These qualities are the bedrock on which much of my identity is based. I really hope that if someone else is reading this, who has gone through similar things, can relate, and can feel like we are all in this together, and that, you are never going to be perfect.
Their desperation for approval, their eagerness to please, their over-attentiveness to our needs can make us extremely uncomfortable, or extremely greedy. Others think I'm rude 3 Ever gone to the principals office? That's where you find yourself wrapped up with someone who needs you, and you need them, in an entirely unearthly way. Interestingly, most of us will flip-flop, at various times in our lives, between being too nice and being an opportunist. How much of your calendar is filled up with stuff for you, versus stuff for other people? It was really my friends who got me through it, also keeping a diary really helped. Every human being has occasional dark thoughts, feelings and urges. It may be difficult, but it's worth the work.
Sign up for my free monthly wellness newsletter. My teachers don't like me that much but that's ok. I really hope of you are going through tough times, that you have a family member, or a good friend to go to. Be smart, generous, interesting, cool, prudent…Nurture your good qualities. Having a friend who lives an hour's drive away will mean you won't see them as much as the person who lives closer. You're Afraid Of Being Rejected A of why you're so darn nice.
I hope you get through this, because with the right mind set, you can strive one step closer to being happy again. Sometimes I feel left out as a Christian, because none of the questions seem right. If not, don't be afraid to say no. I just want to not be a waste. There is nothing extraordinary or interesting about it. I go to behavior classes Think I am just ok. And may even sound downright scary.
The first is that you can start , as you try to be all things to all people. If you feel a burning sense of resentment after agreeing to something, then it's a good sign you said yes out of obligation, and not because you actually wanted to. What Provokes Us to Be Mean to Nice People? Often, we want to do the right thing, but other people can provoke us to behave badly, especially when they make us uncomfortable or vulnerable, or when they make it just too easy for us to do the wrong thing. You wouldn't want to cause a problem. Sometimes 7 You would describe yourself as. When it comes to human behavior, I am an amateur like most people. An accepted colloquialism is 'I'm doing nicely, thank you.
I will get the blunt one out of the way first. If someone is so foolish as to be a people-pleaser, we'll gladly allow them to give us what we want. Some of us get so angry at the nice people among us that we'll punish them for reminding us of the places within us that are weak, needy and dependent on other people's approval. Your Needs Are Never Met Nice people tend to attract users — partners who are lazy, friends who always need help moving, family members who constantly have a favor to ask. I learned early in life to create a safe place where my true self could exist, without any external threats.
What To Do About It You can , according to Sun. This coping mechanism served me well in my childhood, where asserting any aspect of my true and unique self was seen as an attack and a sign of betrayal. But there are definitely some , and it can unfortunately cause some problems. Being a total doormat because you're afraid to ruffle any feathers. If nothing else, it will give you something to talk about when you meet someone new. The person less assertive dates usually a more assertive person and that person unless insurance is generally fine with going with the decisions of his or her partner more assertive; it is not a mature dating attitude.
It's an admirable trait, but not something that is sustainable for very long. You want to get to know them! You Don't Have Your Own Life When it comes to jobs, relationships, friendships, etc. So while some people may have seen me as passive, I knew the truth -- it wasn't that I was passive; I was just so busy protecting myself emotionally, that I wasn't always present enough to share who I really was. Most of us can contain these, most of the time. What will you get out of it? Studies suggest that women tend to compromise on certain issues in favor of men they meet online.