I used to think it was weird. He should be kind and loving and meet you in the middle in terms of effort put into a relationship. But his friends are another story altogether. You keep him young at heart and he allows your old soul to shine through. I can't ask for much more, really.
But now my dad accepts my boyfriend even though he's still scared to see me hurt! However, once you're at least 15 or 16, I find it acceptable to date someone much older. He will mention that he excited at the prospect of you meeting his family and he will most likely reiterate all the lovely things he has told them about you. Ask your friends not to make jokes either. But at the time, to us, it wasn't weird or taboo as much as this epic, forbidden romance. Actor Hugh Jackman has been married to Deborra-Lee Furness for 17 years. Any decently nice guy accumulates ex-girlfriend friends. She is 13 years older than her mate.
We do have to be careful. If you want to make things work, be sure you can handle the following. RustyFork: How old are you? It was late and my parents were asleep as we drove over to the house where T. Or, you know, some version of whining about your age. My concerns are coming from situations where I have seen older divorced guys seemingly only go after younger, attractive women and it seems to only end in chaos the instances I know of anyway. Ideal age for women is about 23. Assess Your Proclivity for Indulgences While many behaviors in the extreme form represent a problem or even an addiction, some of those same behaviors can be harmless if not taken to the extreme.
In what scenario does the equation trump discretion? Better yet, leave it up to speculation. The older women know what's up. I can see how it could be harder to relate to someone who is 2+ generations older than you. So I was just thinking about this because I have nothing better to do at the moment. Later, if you find that he is what you truly want in a husband, then you should accept his proposal! A recent article in magazine looked at a handful of real-life May-December romances, focusing mainly on those between older women and younger men. That being said, if you're 21 years old, you would have a remote chance of dating a 30+ year old.
Concentrate on yourself and school, and enjoy your life day to day instead of worrying about this guy. My best friend was 14 when she fell in love with a 21 year old. His name was Todd and you had nothing in common. If this one is looking for a long-term relationship, he might move a little fast for your tastes. The choices we make now will affect us for generations to come.
We've learned a lot from our previous relationships. He knows what he wants and he won't waste your time if you're not it. I was also stable, and was not scrambling for a mate. At some point during our dating season, I realized it was coming and started giggling over it, even then. Thank you again for sharing and God bless you and your wonderful marriage! Of course, there are many variables to any marriage and this list is not a formula, just a humorous look at some possibilities. Once again, she was treating me like a child, someone unable to make her own decisions.
It doesn't necessarily define anything else about the person. That also depends a bit on what kind of relationship you're talking about. My friend's older boyfriend was close with a guy I'll call T. The second incident I remember happened when he was giving me a ride home. As I got older, however, the more I realized that my experience was not an uncommon one. They usually love getting attention from younger guys. Marriage is all about comparability.
He was a nice guy. Are you in a marriage with a large age-gap? Ideal age for women is about 23. If you are compatible with her then i do not find any problem to on. It is far from perfect, but works well enough for most ages where people are single adults. I know how that sounds: I cringe now just typing it.
Assess Your Respective Sexualities Though I find that most people overemphasize the importance of sex and sexual attraction, intimacy is a factor worth considering. He is at the age where boys start exploring and you are bound to get carried away, what then. Had to be careful with my response! Thankfully, most guys grow out of being the Leg Hair Police in their mid-20s. This older guy wants to stay home every night of the week. Especially for girls, who are often taught that being polite and sweet should override all other instincts. Does your age accurately reflect how old you feel? I say target because being on the West Coast, there are only three name-brand schools you can land a job on at an i-bank on the West Coast.
He's so cute with kids. Like, older chicks don't care about your position in life. Despite the age difference, we play and goof around a lot and I like that he can be my friend as well as a teacher when I need him to seeing that he has had some experiences that I am yet to have. Age is not so much the factor as character flaws in the individuals. D M: I have experience dating women older than me, but it never went long-term for a few reasons: 1 I think getting married before you're 30 is a bad idea, they all wanted to settle down and have kids 2 You're at different points in your life. He Might Be a Bit Controlling Because older men usually know what they want, they can have a strong need to control a situation…and also you.